He told me this about a couple minutes ago. He told me that he wanted to have a threesome. I’m not interested in that but he seemed to try to push the idea. I don’t wanna share something this intimate with someone else. I feel like it’s become boring when he stopped making me feel wanted. I try explaining it it the best way possible before said he’d try but he has done it for a couple weeks than stopped. I care for our son during the day he works. I’m exausthed by the time he gets home. I try my best to keep everything clean care for my son whilst trying to “be pretty” meaning taking care of myself. It would be nice being told I’m pretty or that I did a good job at doing my best. I’ve never received flowers even a flower picked from outside would make me happy. We’ve never been on a date since we started dating when covid started so everything was closed down. When he comes home he’s tired takes care of our son so I can shower. Then I make dinner while he games since it his safe heaven. He helps me bathe our son put him to bed and by the time everything is done we are both tired. He said that we have sex just to have sex because it’s a fundamental need in a couple. I don’t feel appreciated he doesn’t feel like his needs are met.
I wanna spice things up cause I do admit sex has become boring any tips ?
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Y’all do need to spice things up! Do some role play. Act like you are a neighbor or a babysitter. Also eating his ass out can be really thrilling for him. Find out what his dark sexual fantasies are and role play it.
Yes role playing is a must alongside foreplay is very important & I’m talking being detailed with hands-on also kissing licking from earlobes to every inch downwards, using toys, being blindfolded, 69ing & trying different positions nasty sex talk & you should definitely record yourselves then watch it together. Just do your best to be creative to step outside that comfort zone you have unfortunately found one another in now. I wish you both the best.
A threesome at this point is a mistake!!! He is looking for something new. Both of you need to make an effort to spice things up. But he needs to build you up. $4.00 for some flowers at Publix. Telling you how amazing you are for all that you do. Running your bath lighting some candles, getting you two a babysitter for a few hours. A card or a not on the counter for you or from you to him telling the other that you can’t wait to be with the other tonight. Very small things is all it takes. Watch some porn together. Give each other a massage. It takes some work to keep things from becoming a dull routine. He needs to quit acting like a boy and be the man. My ex got the boy. My wife got the man. It’s a hard truth.
It looks like you’re missing a good conversation around consent…
It looks like he is feeling rejected and you’re feeling neglected… and if nothing is done, you’ll be done sooner or later…
Many couples thrive when they discover and implement freeuse dynamics because, with important conversations around consent beforehand, it addresses the main insecurities while opening space for flirtation and romance…
Desiring a threesome when you’re feeling rejected is a solution many believe to be magical, however doing it when the main relationship is suffering usually only gets you both closer to the precipice…
If he is ready to open up to you, listen carefully, you may find he is suffering deep inside and needs change in ways that he probably doesn’t know yet…
Good luck 🍀
He is using you. Dump him. Why are you doing everything and on top of that he wants a threesome? You cook for him while he games? Please find someone that respects you. He definitely does not. He’s just pushing to see how much he can use you for while giving nothing in return.