Hello, I’ve only ever once cum from oral when I was new to sex in general. (Like prob the 3rd or 4th time I’d ever done it) and I grew up masterbating by folding pillows and humping then, to using the tub faucet.
Penetration can get me off every time if I’m on top (like the pillows) and with my newest partner I’ve come a few other ways through penetration as well.
But because it seems like oral is something guys do to please a woman (it’s never been my favorite thing) I’d like to learn how to enjoy it, but I also don’t understand this when I’m hearing like 95% of women can’t come from the opposite situation.
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Lucky!
I trained myself up as much as I could to be the ultimate oral servicer. My wife can’t get off from clit stimulation alone, she’s a penetrative cummer only.
We make things work somehow, I totally wish oral was her #1 thing tho!! ♥️
I am the exact same way as you and can cum only from missionary or when I’m on top, and even then not every time.
Oral is not really pleasurable for me, my bf always eats me out and tries to stimulate me in many different ways but I can never get to the finish line from oral or anal. I guess we’re just wired different.
My wife was like this for most of our marriage. For 20 years she could consistently orgasm from penetrative sex but not for oral. She’d push me away most of the time when I tried and even if she did let me it was just for a few minutes and then she’d tell me to just fuck her because oral wasn’t doing anything for her. A couple years ago I randomly went down on her and not only did she get into it, but she came so hard. It’s now a staple of our sex lives.
If I had to guess at what changed I think it was just her giving it a real chance. For so many years, decades really, she had it in her head that PIV was what she liked, it made her orgasm, and she wasn’t interested in anything else. I don’t think she ever really have oral a truly open minded chance, until one day she randomly did and it blew her mind. The funny part for me has always been that all those years of not doing oral and the one time she really tries it, it became her new favorite sex thing of all time.
If you want to enjoy it for you then that’s perfectly valid. Maybe there is a certain kind of touch you’d be more receptive to, that’d be something to explore.
But please keep in mind most of the gripes insofar with oral is when partners are nonreciprocating precisely because penetration doesn’t do it for a LOT of women. If it does work for you and you aren’t a particularly strong fan of oral you don’t need to force yourself to be because your partner wants to get you off that way.
To put it in perspective (and this is just an example) that’d be like a guy who you wanted to get him off with anal stimulation because you heard it gives guys stronger orgasms. Sure he could try and he might even find a way to do so, but it is always up to him and if he’s enjoying sex just fine as is then no need to stress trying to make it work. Same for you! It’s nice you’re getting partners considerate of your pleasure