To the people who have been cheated on, what was their excuse?

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1. He didn’t give one, nor did he apologise

2. I remember when i cheated on my ex (sexting with a different guy), i just said it straight forward right after without excuses.

3. None. Disregard is the name of the game.

4. That I wasn’t a good partner. I didn’t love him, didn’t want to be with him. He *deserved* to find happiness.

   He doesn’t want to talk about how his abuse killed my libido. He doesn’t want to talk about how many months he spent lying to me in order to sleep with both of us for as long as possible. He doesn’t want to talk about how angry and controlling he is behind closed doors.

   I am increasingly certain he’s a narcissist. He chooses the people in his life to fill needs. He chose me to promote himself to husband and to birth and raise his kids until they were old enough that he wouldn’t have to put much effort into taking care of them once he moved out.

5. That “her brain was weird and didn’t see sex and love having anything in common” or that “she missed me so much”.

   I refer to the end of that engagement as the one that ended because we “had different definitions of monogamy”.

6. My favorite ever was…. “I just don’t know how I feel”

   This was my highschool sweetheart

7. “In that moment, I wasn’t myself.”

   Philosophical implications of that one would have been staggering if it were remotely true.

8. Gf of 2 years texted me saying she had cheated and was done while I was on vacation with my family in High school.
   Needless to say it wasn’t a very fun trip after that.

9. I did not give her enough attention. Sorry I was in the army at the time trying to support our family. 100s of miles away in Louisiana for a month, on a training rotation, with no phone! IN THE MIDDLE OF A FUCKING HURRICANE!!! Lol that knocked down the phone tower when I did get my phone back!!! ..true story

10. Every woman ive been with either cheated on me or with me but my ex cheated on me with her own brother fully booked and i know because i walked in on them

11. “She brainwashed me”

12. We were in a long distance relationship for 6 months, but had been friends for more than 30 years. I ended up moving to his area (not for him). He cheated on me with a mutual friend who had no idea we had been seeing each other, as none of our friends did. The only reason he could give was “he got scared”. Shittiest part was I told him from the start that I wanted 100% honesty, and all he had to do was tell me he was “scared” and he could have saved our 30+ year friendship. Instead he has lost all of our mutual friends, which I guess gives me a little satisfaction., because his excuse and apology did not.

13. My husband blamed his porn addiction and that he got “triggered”.