I am F30 and he’s M40. We have been together for 3 years. Usually we hang out at his place about twice a week.
Lately, we’ve spent over two weeks away from each other, due to various reasons. First of all, my boyfriend’s calendar was more full than ever now in August. Usually he spends most of his time at home but in this month, he hasn’t vad any free weekends.
Secondly, I spent 10 minutes in the approximaty of a person who turned out to have Covid-19, and he wanted to keep distance to me because of that. (I haven’t had any related symptoms after that but have been feeling quite tired, possibly due to work.)
During these weeks, I’ve felt quite contradictory about the situation. Tbh I haven’t really missed him in a way I thought I would miss him. On some days I even kinda forget that I’m dating someone. On the other hand, I’ve started to feel more insecure about our relationship and whether he even cares about me at all.
I’m aware that the problem might be on my end. I’m prone to feeling insecure in relationships, and having this much distance does not do good for my confidence. I guess I fall somewhat close to the codependency end although I can keep my feelings somewhat controlled.
On the other hand, I feel like he can not really understand how the situation feels for me. For example, I tried to ask him when we would see the next time. He didn’t say anything specific, and instead just sent: “Soon enough. :)” He has a habit of saying vague things when I ask his opinion on something regarding the relationship.
What could/should I do? I’ve been having a “huge rock” (mental rock) in my stomache since the morning, and I don’t know how to get it out.
TL;DR Boyfriend and I have had to keep distance for two weeks, mostly because he had a need for that (busy weeks + COVID fears). I’ve started to feel anxious, abandoned, and insecure. Can’t help but feel that he is not handling the situation in the best way while acknowledging that this might be my own issue as well.