(27F) I’ve been in two serious relationships and have 3 children. Still have yet to achieve this. I’ve tried everything, or so I think I have. My partner is extremely understanding and also concerned. He wishes I could, but we have waited long enough and tried as much as we think we know to. I have a hard time relaxing even when I do believe I’m relaxed I get a thought in my head unrelated to Sex. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy sex and physical touch a lot! But I have never got to this point where I can cum. He’s been patient with me for years but at this point it’s our normal that it’s just not going to happen and there isn’t no point of stressing about it. I get to moments where it feels so good and I begin to have some “tickled” feeling and sensitive sensations happening but it’s like after I hit that part it disappears and I can’t figure out why at all. This is extremely frustrating as I would love to be able to do this and hope there isn’t anything wrong with me.
Thanks for reading! Any advice is helpful lol
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Have you tried toys and/or vibrators? Make some time to wind down and relax, making sure you have a space for yourself with no interruptions or distractions. Something like a nice bath, candlelight’s, all that can help you relax and focus and hopefully not be distracted by random thoughts, stress, and expectations. Try not to go into it with the orgasm being a goal, it’s supposed to feel good and be fun. Enjoy yourself!
foreplay is more important, then do cowgirl position it will help you to reach big o, because during cowgirl position your clit rub against his pubs which is extra arousal and help you to have orgasm, so first plenty of foreplay then cowgirl position, let me know if it’s worked
Oral sex. Not for 5 or 10 minutes, but as long as it takes for you to cum. Look up the video by Mr. Black on the internet. He explains exactly what I have done for a really long time with great success.
My wife has this issue. And I’m in the same spot as your husband. We’ve try so many toys, vibrators, magic wands, air pulse, sleeves, etc. The Satisfyer Pro 2 does she some promise so we haven’t given up on it yet. It’s the toys she’s actually played with the longest without wanting to stop. With vibrators I think it starts to get to be too much, the rumbling.
She still prefers my tongue the most and I can get her close but not quite there. And this is after I’ve been down there like an hour down.