I M(24) work with a girl(22) and last year I fell in love with her but I didn’t know she was already dating somebody so I broke my heart, but fews months later I got better, found other girl fell in love again and me and this first girl just ended up been good friends.
Last month the second girl broke up with me and I was already in the middle of a lot o personal problems so that really put me in a bad spot, and the person who helped me the most was this first girl, she’s really helping me healing and listening to me and we got really close in this past weeks just like the time when I fell in love with her in the first time.
I don’t want that again I am in already to much pain and still healing i dont wanna a new heartbreak again and I am afraid that if I keep this friendship going I gonna make the same mistake again because I really like her and I feel that she like me (not sure if just as a friend right now).
On the other hand she is few of friends that I have that kind o closeness and I really didn’t want to end that.
The first time I fell for her I said all my feelings for her but she didn’t felt the same way or at least didn’t want to end her relationship.
We already went out together 2 years ago for about 2 months and at the time she was in love with me (i didn’t know by the time, she told me when i told her that i was in love with her).
Should I keep one of my best friends and the only person that is really helping me at this dark times and risk falling again (if I not already fell) or should I tell her that we cannot be friends anymore and focus on healing my self.
Sorry for the bad grammar, english its not my first language
**TL;DR** : Should I stop talking to my best female friend to avoid falling in love with her again?
2 comments
Is she still in a relationship with someone else?
You are going to have to have some self-control if you agree to be friends. If you have to ask “should you stop talking to your best friend female to avoid falling in love with her”. The your answer is no. Sure we can have girl friends. It hurt you once because the friend was dating. You shouldn’t allowed yourself to get upset over someone that was never yours. I also understand falling in love with someone who was never yours to begin with. I have been there.
Your friend sounds like a decent girl that would be there for you. Like you said you need to work on yourself first before getting involved with another. It would only benefit you so you have a clear head before getting with another.