recently I’ve been going out with one of my guy friends, we usually go out for drinks with friends over the weekend and almost every time we’re together away from his friends he makes a move. We started off as just friends but the attraction was obvious. We’ve both expressed our attraction towards each other. Both have explained how we’re not at all looking for a relationship at the moment. A couple weeks ago we were out and he started stroking my leg under the table, I was accepting and moved his hand a little higher, eventually he was fingering me under my skirt. Nothing more happened that night, I went home and we sexted for a bit. A couple weeks later we went out again and after a couple hours he pulled me aside and started making out with me. The whole time we were making out, he had his hands all over my body and was telling me how hard I was making him and how he couldn’t wait to fuck me. At this point I expressed that I was done with all the teasing and wanted him to fuck me finally, he agreed. One of my friends was leaving and I asked him If I should stay behind so we could leave together and go to his house, obviously to have sex. He was unsure and said it would be best if I went back home with my friend since her and I came together and he also mentioned how his friends were leaving soon, and they were most likely staying at his house that night. It was around 2am… I got home and texted him how badly I wanted him to fuck me. He replied explaining how he was sorry he blew it and told me he regretted telling me to go when my friend left. We again, sexted and I went to bed. Is there any reason he would be so hesitant to actually have sex with me? He is bold enough to make the first move but every time it comes down to leaving and having sex he doesn’t actually do it??
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Maybe he’s nervous? Perhaps a past partner made him feel self conscious about his size, technique’s etc. and now he’s afraid of the same thing happening? Maybe he *wants* to sleep with you but the past is holding him back?
Maybe he’s just nervous? Maybe he isn’t so experienced?
He’s probably. not every time someone has a new partner do the immediately go for penetrative sex. Some go slow and it takes multiple rounds before penetration. It’s all about confidence and how comfortable you feel with the person.
I mean… the dude had people staying at his so as a dude, I can understand not wanting to have sex with someone when a buddy of mine is sleeping on my couch in the other room. I guess I never had to deal with that college experience and so I’m not as comfortable with something like that.
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That’s my perspective as a guy anyways
‘Cause he’s a guy, and we’re our own worst enemy sometimes. Do your other friends know what is going on with you two? He probably panicked about bringing you to his place with others coming there. Doubly so if you were being sneaky about it and no one else knew what was going on.
Can’t lie… right or wrong I have done this a few times. I can’t say for sure but this seems intentional.
Out of curiousity is he really really good with his hands and his teasing and his words?
You wouldn’t mind having sex for the first time with him while he has people over? You might have to keep quiet, the clean up can get uncomfortable, when you are supposed to hide it…, they would all know you two have spent a night together, and you probably do not want that, since none of you wants anything serious. He might also want to be a good host, but simultaneously want to pay attention to you the whole time. It’s just better, when you both have time for it, and a place to yourselves.
in the 2nd event his friend staying at his place. if im in his shoes i won’t have sex as well. it’ll be annoying having sex when your friend is outside. if they’re close his friend probably gonna mock him by yelling from outside the room.
what happened with the first one?
Every once in a while I’ll click on a post because I think I can help, and I’m met with this huge wall of text with no breaks or punctuation.
Sorry about your problem, but I’m not reading that mess
He’s nervous.
You don’t count fingering as sex?
I didn’t read ur post and just by the title I can almost guarantee u he has some sort of insecurity he hasn’t sorted out yet.