Women of reddit who decided to be friends with benefits with their ex how did it go?

14 comments

1. Girl no, don’t do it.

2. Wasn’t the worst but, in the end, it just fucked with my emotions too much and almost compromised my current relationship. I was still FWB with my ex when I started talking with my current partner and I didn’t know what to do, so I continued both for a time. My current partner rightfully was pissed, so I broke it off. 8+ years later, we’re still together and own a house together, so it was the right choice (obviously) lol.

   The biggest regret is that during this FWB situation, I was 17 and he was 22. Moreover, I was underage during all 4 years of our relationship. Didn’t realize the creepiness until I reached the age of consent myself. And I realize 17 and 22 doesn’t seem that bad, but 16 and 21 surely does.

3. I’ve been FWB with ex’s and I always remember why they are an ex.

4. probably one of the worst decisions i have ever made. never again

5. For me the FWB really solidified my feelings of “definitely the right choice to split”. So I guess there’s that elimination of the what-if we gave up too soon part before making the wrong decision of getting back together purely out of missing one another. But I don’t suggest it. Its a slippery slope and is only prolonging moving on with your life imo.

6. Oh no save yourself

7. Ha. He actually said the words ‘i just dont want to take advantage of you. I dont want you to think i still love you’

   I laughed and said ‘dude. I dont want to be with you. Im just horny.’ and he actually looked offended

   But i didnt care. I just wanted dick.
   It wasnt even good dick.
   Anywho we would argue all the way to his house. Fuck. Then argue all the way back home again.

   Eventually i got a new guy a texted the old one goodbye.
   Our friends told me i was taking advantage of his feelings. I had to keep explaining this man had no feelings and where was their judgement when he cheated on me throughout our relationship?

   Basically. Dont go there unless the dick is worth it.

8. Few weeks after the break up. Felt fine, I am not a fan of cold turkey quitting. Eventually, we just stop seeing each other, just texting, then texting stopped. Overall, it helped us to be separated from each other.

9. Ended up needing a therapist

10. Ugh don’t do that. Reminds me of high school type crap. Not going to end well because someone will still have feelings and will get hurt.

11. Worst thing ever. Don’t do it.

12. NOOOOOOOO

    Hell no, do NOT do this, it does NOT end well, just no.

13. It wasn’t horrible, actually. We were able to stop at a certain point, and it was okay. But there needs to be clear boundaries and communication. It’s hard to pull off, and would not recommend.

14. A big NO! That’s a way to destroy your mental health. I’m almost sure you will regret that! If you can’t get over him try to see a psychologist