To start things off, I’m 15M. Started going out with a girl after being good friends with her (for around 7 months and crushing on her those 7 months) this time last month.
Now she moved very very quick. She told her direct and extended family that we were dating the day we got together. I mean nothing really wrong with it. I thought it was a little odd considering her grandparents knew immediately. This kind of put pressure on me to tell my direct family (I didn’t really want to tell anyone) as I was invited to do things with her family and it would’ve been tough to explain to my family.
So I just had to tell them even though I really didn’t want to this soon. Mainly for the fact if it didn’t work out. Which it isn’t. It’s not working. I’m pretty sure she thinks it’s working but I’m not really happy. I don’t find myself having fun with her like I did when we were just friends.
Mainly due to the fact we don’t have normal conversations. She’s always just talking about her problems. Like yes it’s perfectly ok to talk about your problems but it’s all the time, and I’m just recycling my shitty advice at this point. Or we have conversations that are just uninvolving. The only way I can respond is by asking a question, I hope that makes sense.
Like I just don’t enjoy what we talk about as we don’t laugh together or have fun conversations, it’s not like talking to a friend, which is what I think it should be. I just don’t enjoy spending time with her. And I feel so shitty for that as she is such a nice person, but I don’t think we are good in a relationship together.
She’s also quite soppy, which is perfectly fine but she said “I love you” a week in, and I shouldn’t of but I did say it back as I felt bad if I didn’t. Like we’re 15? A relationship should be fun, not this serious. And I feel so trapped as I can’t break it off as she’s not mentally well at all so me breaking things of will be horrible for her, and I do care for her, but I just don’t think we are compatibility in this way. And to explain that I Broke up with my girlfriend to my family?
This is exactly why i didn’t want to tell everyone. But I am the bad guy. And I feel so fucking selfish but I don’t know what to do? Do I just keep leading her on, causing me to be unhappy? Or do I end things and really really hurt her? And I know I’m the dickhead in this but I just really don’t know what to do.
TLDR:Don’t feel the same about my girlfriend of one month but can’t end it due to her mental state mainly and don’t know what to do.