When I (22f) was in high school I used to post on social media a lot and had a popular boyfriend so I had a really good reputation with my high school community and was known as a smart and funny girl. Everyone always took time to slide up on my stories and check in on me.
After high school, the pandemic happened and my beginning college stages were all online so I didn’t make any friends at my large uni. I gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and ended things with my boyfriend. All of our common friends unfollowed me and no one checks in anymore even if I reach out. I stopped posting after that.
The friends I stayed in touch with have their own friend groups at their own uni’s now and I feel really left out.
I noticed I get very few likes or replies when I post on social media now and have a much smaller following as well as few people to hang out with. When I see other people get 50+ replies it reminds me of the time I felt very cared for and connected in my community. As an adult now I know it’s wrong to view social media as a reflection of real life but I can’t help feel like shit about it when I see my friends have other friends
Advice? I’m almost done with uni and I haven’t made friends. I hid like counts on Instagram but it still Urks me to spend Saturday nights alone or on the phone with my current boyfriend when others are having fun
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Have a hobby and share the hobby. If you don’t do anything people don’t really engage with others posts. Even if you think other people shitpost and get attention, others think they’re interesting.
Even if you feel like it’s been done a million times before. Doing something and sharing it is better than doing nothing, posting the same selfie, or reposting a quote or whatever.
Life is more than likes on social media. You should not base your self worth on such shallow indicator.
Stop using social media as a measure of your self worth. Find something you’re passionate about, just try stuff (hobbies) on and see what fits. In your adult life you’ll likely spent 2/3 of your time sleeping or working. Find that thing that you can do to forget about everything else, something that you can improve at over time. Eventually you’ll find that people either share your passion.
Stop going on social media and make some irl friends instead
Get off social media. Focus on yourself.