do you guys think that when you break up with someone they are entitled to have a detailed explanation of the reasons? Or do you think a more general reason should suffice? (e.g., its not working, i m not feeling it, etc)
or does it depend on how long the relationship is going on maybe?
and how would you deal with someone who bullies you to give specific reasons when you gave only more general statements (because the real reasons would probably make the person upset/angry/aggressive/resented)
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It sounds like you are in an abusive relationship and the way to do that is pack your stuff and leave a note that says “it’s over. I don’t want you to contact me.” if they get aggressive you file a restraining order
My first ex never gave me a true reason for the breakup. We went apartment shopping, planned a future etc. it was a pretty serious relationship. I was young and he was my first love. The breakup came out of no where and he called me at 2am to say “ he needs to be single. “
That was all I got. It took me forever to get over him. I had all of this false hope he would wake up one day and realize I was the love of his live and he made a huge mistake 🙄lol. Until I checked his fb months later and his photo was with a new girl. We dated just under a year. I know it wasn’t that long but it was my first serious relationship and the lack of closer made it so hard to move on. Not everyone is owed closer but it does make it harder.
If it’s a longer relationship, I prefer reasons. In fact, I prefer there to be a discussion about why it’s not going to work, if it’s possible to do that without things getting nasty.
If you’re being bullied or worried that you’ll make someone angry, I think you’re justified in just stepping away.
I think it’s, like, beneficial to the other person to have a specific explanation, and so it’s a nice/good/kind thing to do if you can, but not something they’re *entitled* to. Also seconding the other comments about the fear/bullying being bad and just removing yourself probably being a good idea in that situation.
No but it would be better to have an explanation than to not have one