So, I (20m) have been on a journey of “life-maxing” from high school through now. I’ve lost weight, gotten muscular, gotten rid of skin problems, bought better clothes, medicated my depression, and got my diet and supplements down. I even picked up a couple hobbies and have somewhat of a direction with my major.
So why don’t I have the life I want? The internet told me once I master all of these things, opportunities for fun, relationships, and everything I’ve always felt like I’ve been missing will fall into my lap.
But they haven’t yet. And the only reason I can think of is because my vibe is off. While my resting bitch face has gotten better since getting on antidepressants, I think there is something wrong with how my “energy” feels to others. Last weekend I was at a party flirting with a girl and I thought I looked like I was having fun, since I was. But she asked me why I look so mad.
It would be great if anyone has any advice on how to appear as effortlessly joyful and welcoming as everyone else at my university does. I just don’t know how other people can so effortlessly connect with others.