Okay so I’m making this post cause I need to tell someone or I’ll lose my mind.
So I (M22) have fallen head over heals for a old flame (F21) I’ve only been reconnecting with for like 2 weeks let’s call her April just incase she finds this.For some backstory we dated when we were like 16 or 17 and it was a great relationship but as most high-school love stories it fell apart. I joined the army and decided I’d be better off alone. Well turns out I wasn’t cut out of the military and ended dating alot of other people. I actually got engaged and thought I had it figured out but things got rough and we went our separate ways. Since then I’ve reconnecting with April and have found myself just as madly in love with her as I was back then. The problem is i can’t help but feeling its wrong like I shouldn’t have such strong feelings. Afterall it’s been years we’re both very different people know. I find myself telling myself I shouldn’t love her I can’t love her because that wasn’t the plan. The thing is tho the harder I try not to love her the harder it becomes and I can’t tell her that because what if she slips away again. Any input would be greatly appreciated.
Tl;Dr just read it idk how to summarize the damn thing
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My dude, based on this post it doesn’t really sound like you’re ready for a relationship. You can ask her out, but what’s your response if she says no? It’s a little confusing because it’s hard to identify based off the paragraph WHY your feelings are so strong, apart from something about her probably making you feel really good and safe or however the fuck attraction works.
Obviously I can’t know exactly how this is for you, but falling for someone from your past is definitely something I know well. To be real with you, unless you find someone else or lose those feelings, you’re going to keep falling for her no matter if you try to stop or not. If you can work that out and you’re both down for that, by all means go for it, because just because you’ve both changed doesn’t make you any less of a match for each other. On the other hand, don’t let it consume you. I know I’ve let that happen, and if it doesn’t go the way you want after all that, you’re further back than when you started. Just let whatever happens happen, and remember that you’re always going to kick yourself for remembering the good times, so don’t forget the bad. Best of luck to you man