Hi! So I’ve been sleeping with this guy on and off the past month. Mind blowing sec. He’s the best. We have a dom/sub dynamic. I met him 2 years ago and have a bit of history and we rekindled our relationship recently. He’s pretty well endowed and I have a pretty small butt hole. Never taken anal very well but I trust him enough to do it. I know lube is a given but what are some other tips I should know before doing this again lol any help is appreciated ☺️
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Different positions can hurt/feel good based on the curve of his cock.
He should enter very slowly (it should take a minute or two).
Give it a full minute or two after he enters before he starts doing any movement.
Put lube on your butthole but also have him put lube up and down his entire shaft.
Make sure you are well warmed up before going to anal (1 or 2 orgasms for you before anal if you are multi-orgasmic).
Use a buttplug during foreplay to start the stretching out process.
Get a plug. Use it to stretch
Warm up with a small butt plug, and then use a vibrator on it. It will feel good and relax your sphincter.
Use a lube shooter. For insetting lube inside.
I recommend a set of plugs that increase in size. Leave each one in for a few minutes and I like to press my vibrator on it to get things nice and relaxxxxed. 😇
Use lots of lube; clean out first with a douch bag first unless it’s not planned.
I was told by a lady at a sex shop that it was best for me to be on top because then I would control how much went in and how fast. Haven’t worked up the courage to try it yet (husband is the largest I’ve been with also) but will soon.
Have him enter you in a position where your knees are up by your chest. This aligns everything so entry is easier.
You need to be relaxed/distracted. The more tense you are the more clenched up all your muscles will be. You might be able to relax with just deep breathing, you may require distraction (my go-to is deep kissing)
Training, training, training. My ex was pretty well endowed (especially when it came to girth which is was really matters here), solution to making it comfortable was plugs. Wear a plug that is comfortable for you for a couple of hours at a time (I would wear one when doing chores, makes them more fun anyway!), once one is easy go up a size. When you can take a plug that is a similar girth to your boyfriend comfortably, you’re good to go and won’t be worried about whether you can take him or not.
Better not to rush and to have a great first time than to charge in to please him, have a painful experience and then never do it again. If he shows impatience, explain that regular anal starting in a couple of weeks is much better than a one of experience ending awkwardly now.
Using a small wand on your clit while he attempts to penetrate you can help stop you clenching.
The type of lube makes a huge difference. You want something thick, I would buy anal specific lube.