Ok so I just moved in to university yesterday and I’m still feeling as lonely as I felt in high school, my roommate hasn’t moved in yet and doesn’t know how long he will be cause he’s a international student and is waiting for his permit, my floor seems very quiet and have tried talking to a bunch but none seem to be interested in socializing and always have their doors closed, I’ve gone to a board game thing for 1st years and met some people but didn’t make any connections or anything, it just feels like the same hole I went through in high school, I try and be friendly but it seems I still can’t make friends, any help? It just sucks seeing everybody already with a group of friends and me still struggling
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Also I did sign up for some intramural sports and do plan on going to the drop in sports as well but those don’t start for another week and a half and plan on trying to find clubs to
Just keep making the effort. It doesn’t seem like it but its the easiest time. Everyone’s lonely and hoping to make friends. Keep it chill, start small and keep inviting people to do things or go places. Also, join some clubs and really get involved.
stop caring so much..
If you keep meeting people you will eventually make friends or at least you will have some acquaintances that can eventually become your friends.
For me personally the main thing stopping me from getting new friends is anxiousness about making friends.
And i know it might make no sense to you.
I’d like to say that everybody finds friends in the university.
But please choose the right people.
Don’t settle for medium quality friends over yourself.
The best advice I can give is try not to be overbearing. Yes it’s good to be joining these activities but make sure you are having fun yourself, and not go in feeling dissatisfied if you don’t click with anyone long term. Let things happen organically, and treat yourself with respect. It is quite a balancing act and is difficult at first, but give it time and hopefully there will be people whom you connect with really well!
My best advice is to just be happy. Happiness is the magnet for making friends. If you have a vision of what your day or night should be, act out that vision and see who follows. Don’t be too rowdy tho lol. But yeah, have fun, even if it means you’re on your own. Say hi to everyone and smile.
Be active and lead with your best foot forward. College can be an amazing time.
Is everyone moving in on the same day or is it stretched out?
Join societies and go to their taster days when you can. I wouldn’t worry about everyone being in a group, even if that’s somehow the case uni had only just started and it’s unlikely people will stick to those groups. Don’t force it, you’re being friendly you will make friends as long as you put yourself out there. You’re definitely not the only one struggling.