Ughh so I have this one guy who’s super hot, gives amazing head, has a decent package, etc. But I can’t get him to actually fuck me hard. I try literally saying things like “I want you to fuck me hard now,” but every time he just goes slow and passionate and like stares me in the eyes. He seems to like it. And I like the intimacy, I really do, but it also isn’t hot the way I want it. I feel like I’ve tried dirty talking, but is there a way I can be more direct and address it… PS: he is JUST a fuck buddy, we are not exclusive or dating and that is not anything that we’re interesting in.
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Did you already had sex w him
Just tell him, in a convo outside of a session so his mind is clear and able to keep a conversation
Talk to him outside of the bedroom and ask him if he’s willing to switch it up the next time you guys get together. Tell him that you enjoy the slow and intimate sex but you want to mix things up and get fucked on occasion. See what he says.
If he’s just a fuck buddy, why do you expect him to cater to your needs? Move on if you need to. Jeez.
Maybe try switching up the position to something without possible eye contact like doggie or something that you can control the action like reverse cowgirl.
Or find a porn scene with hard pounding like you want and ask him to duplicate.
You can demonstrate what you want by using Amazon position. Fuck him hard and he’ll get the message, even if he’s as dense as I am!
Doggy style? And once he’s there, ramp up the pace a bit by pushing your ass back against him.
But also, communication prior to and outside of the sexual interaction.
He might be worried he’s going to cum too fast, so he slows down the pace. But yeah, doesn’t hurt to ask him.
We are not machines.
Going fast usually means going early.
He may need a little “demo”. Maybe you can find a “porn” vid that can show him how you want to have sex..it may end up being a great experience for the both of you!
It sounds like he likes the girlfriend experience.
Sounds to me that you two are not sexually compatible and that’s ok. He’s not gonna give you what you desire because he’s not on the same page sexually(and that’s ok)
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Get on top and pound him right through the bed. Better be quick though because he prob won’t last long.
Flip him over, climb on top, and fuck him.
Have you tried fucking him hard?
Watch some porn together. Show him what you like.
Personally I prefer slow, intimate sex but my girlfriend loves when I go hard so I give it to her hard when she asks. When we first started I’d cum after 30 seconds to a minute of doing it hard, and even I could last I’d get tired pretty quick. But then I got used to it more and can last 3-4 minutes of going hard. Maybe he just doesn’t wanna cum so it ends too quick and you’ll be dissatisfied
Umm… Does he know that you aren’t more than that? And I mean does he really know and not just going along with that narrative so that he can be with you…
Turn around and tell him to pound you
Take that kitty back to the rooster and get it done right dang 🥴
Uhmm.. he seems like he don‘t like playing hard.
Play games you both like – but don’t force him to do things he doesn’t like. If the „make love“ Sex doesn‘t fit for you, cut it.
Well than just ne blunt no dirty talk just come out and say it
What do you think he’s thinking when he goes slow and tries to hold eye contact?
It sure as shit isn’t “God this pussy feels good.” He’s thinking “she’s so beautiful,” “I could melt in those eyes,” etc.
Have a tough conversation. He’s not your FWB. He’s hurting because he wants you in his life 24/7 and he’s taking what he can get.
If that’s not what you want, then you *need* to sack up and stop fucking him.
Sounds like you found the holy-grail-quality boyfriend material ♥️