Why is love and hate so close to each other?

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1. Because both is passion

2. Can often elicit similar or the same responses.

3. As someone mentioned, you need to have some kind of passion to feel love and hate. The true opposite of love is indifference.

4. Because to hate something you have to care about it in the first place.

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6. Because they are both extremely intense feelings. Both take a serious toll on you emotionally.

7. Both requires certain levels of dedication

8. I don’t feel like they are. They are both passionate emotions, but I don’t consider them close to each other.

9. Both are strong emotions.

10. As they say, “the opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference”

    You have to be care to love and to hate.
    Indifference means you don’t give a shit.

11. both are caused by care. if you have care for someone you love, you have care for someone you hate. if you are passionately talking about someone even in a negative tone, you still care about them. if you are consistently making them a topic, maybe you’re just in love with them.

12. Obsession is a common denominator

13. I don’t actually think that they are. But that phrase is often invoked to mean that some people reserve their worst behavior for the people they love most, and IMO that’s because 1) abusers go after people they think/know they can control, and loving someone can make it easier for them to control you, and 2) our deepest childhood wounds/traumas are most often triggered by the people we have the most intimate relationships with, because they are our primary attachment figures in adulthood and thus have the most power to shake us up.

14. I don’t think they are, at least not when I feel them

15. I don’t think they’re close at all