what’s wrong with me? did I miss red flags

Hi ladies,

So I am 26, back to dating after a sexual assualt last year and just trauma so please be nice. it’s been so hard finding a good man. I’ve given up and just am not dating anymore until I get the dating world, men and Pruett my heart. I was SA before and that really took a toll so this kind of trip me a bit. The last man I was with, it seemed great buttttt we went to a carnival he got so angry with me about the most childish thing and stop talking to me for a bit until I kept trying to make him laugh and kept saying sorry (then eventually ghosted me after saying he can see himself marrying me). He got angry bc I didn’t want to go on the fast UFO ride that doesn’t have seat belts cause it goes so fast you get stuck to the wall. I have sensitive ears so I get vertigo (i kept trying to explain this to him, he didn’t give me room or listened to me) and I didn’t want to get sick so I told him can we do another ride, he said “you’re not going on my favorite childhood ride that’s messed up” kept trying to pressure me when i said please i can’t be bought himself a ticket and was sad looking, wouldn’t even look at me. Walked away from me when I was trying to tell him I’ll go, I felt so bad I tried holding his hand for him to wait for me but he pushed my hand off his and I said really your not going to hold my hand, he said “yup, I’m petty, I’m not talking to you until the Farris wheel maybe” I’m very non-confrontationa so I “was being good” or quite but I asked him to wait and he just shrugged me off and went on the ride looking mad. He came off okay but still was not really talking to me. Then ghosted. I found out he was on probation/ mandatory domestic violence class every week and I’m like confused cause he was so sweet but also that carnival thing happened then bam disappeared it hurt me a lot. He told me before ghosting that he got in trouble apparently he was on pain killers for ACL surgery (which i didn’t see a scar but did see scabs on his face and he always carried concealer) and got aggressive with his ex and people around saw it and called the cops and he was arrested and sent in probation his story… he said his ex even thinks he’s so nice and wouldn’t do that but they couldn’t work cause she in the army and can’t be with him. its confusing cause I just thought oh finally someone nice, and it was after a very abusive relationship so I just don’t get it. How am I attracting these kind of men… or was he actually nice and just didn’t want to be with me??

Can you tell me red flags cause I am new to dating again and this isn’t easy. I am so nice and trusting and trying to be better to myself