So I always get stuck at the acquaintance stage of friendships, you know the typical small talk and talking about simple stuff. I just cannot put my mental walls down and let people in. I moved countries during my teenage years and ever since I have not had close friendships and my social skills have deteriorated so much. Any tips?
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I have the same problem actually–because I lack vulnerability, people tend to get bored of me as a person eventually or just maintain a relationship as acquaintances like you said. I also moved around a lot as a kid, so that could be part of the problem. I’ve also had multiple negative experiences with showing vulnerability in the past and can’t seem to get past them or trust people enough to open up. I’m a pretty private person and would like to maintain that, but it’s hurting my current relationships and preventing me from making more. I’d love some tips, too ://
It s not necessarily about being “vulnerable” it s more to show you re confident to share bad shit just because your good outweighs by so much. If you don’t share embarassing things people subconsciously think you re not confident about yourself.