Today was our (M26 and F24) 2 year anniversary. She is truly my best friend and someone who has supported and understands me. However, I was rubbed the wrong way with multiple things over the past month. One, when invited to come to a religious event she said she wouldn’t want to even if she could. And two, after getting flowers, a gift, and arranging dinner reservations for us, she was pissed because the flowers didn’t have a vase and I used one of hers, and was pissed that the restaurant I chose was not the one she wanted. Both of these things have not sat right with me, but I also feel like she has been under a lot of stress and is easily irritated lately. I want to give her the benefit of the doubt but I don’t know.
Tldr; she is my best friend and someone I love spending my time with, but in the last month the way she acts is different/not what I expected
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I think around that time period it’s normal to become more irritated with your partner and notice things you didn’t before. however, if you don’t work on communication from the get go I think the relationship could end up spiraling. I think if you communicated those concerns to your partner in a way that is not accusatory, but rather from a place of how it makes you feel you could ease your mind and create more understanding between you two. Moving forward, If you’re working on communicating and it’s still not siting right with you or she isn’t reacting well, then you have to decide whether her reactions/how she is is something you are ok with moving forward.
I’d be curious as to the source of her stress.
Consider couples therapy before it gets really bad, her reaction isn’t okay and something is clearly happening and she is keeping it bottled up for some reason.
Sounds like she has had enough of the relationship maybe? You need to communicate and a therapist will help that.
Best of luck