I’m very confused. In my last sex experiences I struggled sometimes getting hard or reaching orgasm. Analizing myself I found out I get turned on not by the sight of a naked woman or by sex, but by the thought that I (or a man) turn on the woman. If a woman, beautiful and naked passes next to me, I don’t give a fuck. But if a woman, even if not beautiful, says she finds someone very attractive I get an instant boner, and thus I can get satisfying sex only if the woman whispers to me she’s attracted by me or by some handsome man.
I’m on the next level of narcisism. I have fear of myself, and feel very confused.
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You have to form those mental habits, train yourself to be aroused by women as such by 100s or 1000s of repetitions
Your partner wouldn’t be having sex with you if they weren’t attracted to you. I’m sure that your partner will tell you how attracted they are to you during sex. You’re other option would be to ask them to talk about their attraction to their celebrity crush. Communication is key, and this should be an easy ask.
I can only get turned on if my woman is feeling turned on. Meaning if she seems uninterested with our sexy time then I can’t get into it. This is a problem since she has responsive desire
you might also have a voyeur kink. maybe you want to see your girl with another man?
I think it is normal to be aroused by your partner’s enthusiasm. In practice, this may just mean that you don’t often initiate, but you would reciprocate when she does.