How does social surrounding change once a person graduates and join the job?

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1. It’s rare to socialize with work friends outside of work

2. Welcome to the tumbleweeds 😂

   You’ll have workmates you maybe share lunch or happy hour with but it’s not like college where you’ll hangout in the evenings/weekend together much.

3. It’s much harder to find social circles once you’re out of college. Welcome to the machine

4. This is the stage where other people are going to have other priorities in life besides you. While the friendship with you still exists, the cold harsh truth is that it is not on the top of their minds anymore. But you can still remain their friend.

   Learn how to handle the natural distance. There will be times that people will not respond to you either online or offline. You need to give people space when it happens. The hallmark of good friendships is getting back in touch down the road at mutual convenience. Never ever beg or chase anybody who is not giving you time or attention for whatever reason. A lot of people lose their friends at this stage because they get a little too needy and attached to their friends. Avoid this trap. This isn’t a codependent relationship. You need to have your own separate life outside of your friendships. Cultivate some goals and hobbies, and talk to other people as well. This helps you stand out in the long run.

   Leave people with positive impressions of you. When you do talk to those people who are apart from you, learn how to genuinely connect with them. Ask them how they are what they are up to. Listen to what they say. Answer confidently about yourself when you are asked questions. Bring positive energy and enthusiasm. People subconsciously attach you to the value you bring. Find ways to add value to people’s lives. Maybe you have some kind of skill, talent, or hobby that align with people’s interests. Offer to help people in some aspect of life. People respect those who impact their lives. Even if what you do doesn’t directly impact them, people always love to see active confirmation you are well rounded in life and not needy and desperate for their attention and validation. Chase excellence, not people !