Formerly sexually vanilla men, what was your path like towards becoming sexually adventurous/kinky?

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1. Drugs and alcohol, both of which I don’t partake in anymore.

   The kinks however did stay.

2. I ended a 7 year relationship in my late 20’s that was sexually super vanilla and she preferred it that way (that was a major contributor to why it ended actually). Then spent most of my early 30’s cycling through women like crazy and exploring anything that interested me. Those experiences were totally worth it and I wouldn’t trade them for anything.

   Its like eating the same 2 or 3 meals your whole life then suddenly finding out there is a whole fucking gourmet buffet table with every kind of food you can imagine from everywhere in the entire world and you can have as much as you like.

3. I thought missionary was it, Everest Conquered?

4. Try something. If it works well, use it in the next relationship. Try something new in that relationship, too. If it works well, etc., and so on. Rinse and repeat. The arsenal of ideas grows, imagination expands, creativity soars, etc. over time.

5. I’d seen porn and stuff and found it interesting, but my partner at the time wasn’t particularly enthused. Then, a couple of years later, I took a gig doing stand up at a kink convention. Hung around for the weekend, and met lots of awesome people, and attended a few events and munches around the year. Learned more about various things and how to do them outside of just porn, and was able to bring that to relationships. Finally ended up with an awesome, kinky partner.

6. Porn is a fucking rabbit hole.

7. I actually always had it like a splinter in my mind, but was too conservative and shy to try it with women i was dating. I lacked the self confidence i suppose.

   But since i grew my confidence through a combination of lifting weights and sexual experience, i love to exhibit being sexually kinky with my current dating partner.

   Women either love it when i do it or its not for them. But normally they do enjoy it. Unless they’re boring haha

   Enthusiasm to try things is what they find attractive im guessing. Women like routine but they also enjoy variety quite a bit.