I (18F) have just started college and have never dated anyone before. However, I met someone (18M) in one of my classes, and we hit it off immediately. We shared a lot of interests and just seemed to get along quite well. As in, I’ve never gotten along with a guy like I have with him (At the same time, I also haven’t really been exposed to potential partners throughout my life yet, either). Not even a week after we met, he asked me out on a date. The date went well. We had a good time. Our personalities seem like a match. There weren’t any major issues with the date, and I can tell that he really likes me. HOWEVER, I’m not sure if I want to pursue this farther for a few reasons. The main one being that I do not think it is wise for me to enter into a relationship when I have just started college. I feel as if I’m still in a stage where I’m “discovering my identity,” if you want to put it that way, and I haven’t yet decided for myself what I want out of a relationship, what I value, and what I would be willing to give up should I start dating someone, etc. Also, I’ve realized how much I enjoy my current independence and being single. Another big reason is that I don’t think it would be a good idea to pursue a relationship with the first guy to show interest. I’ve just started college, and I feel like now is the time for me to explore my options. I may be overthinking all of this considering we’ve only been on one date, but he has made it clear that he likes me and he wants to continue seeing me. I, on the other hand, do like him, but I don’t know if I want to try for a relationship with him. I also don’t know if I like him enough to actually date him. What should I do?
Tldr: Just started college and met a guy. We get along pretty well. We went on a date. He likes me and wants to continue seeing me. However, I don’t know if I want to pursue this further. What do I do?
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>but he has made it clear that he likes me and he wants to continue seeing me. I, on the other hand, do like him, but I don’t know if I want to try for a relationship with him. I also don’t know if I like him enough to actually date him.
Yet, you’ve already had one date with him. I guess you better take a step back and think about this.
(( I’d of thought it would be harmless to go on several dates with him. ))
There is no right or wrong answer here. Nobody knows how it’ll turn out. Maybe you’ll waste your time with him and regret not having experimented more, maybe you’ll end up lonely and won’t find someone like him again. So that’s something that you need to decide on your own. Just do what feels right to you. It reads like you already made the decision to break it off, so if you want reassurance, it’s fine, do it!