As in the title, my SO can only come when using shower head on her clitoris.
We tried, I think, pretty much everything- oral, vibrator, her touching her clitoris during sex. She will rarely cum during sex (like once in 3 months) when i stimulate her clitors pretty fast and hard and she is doing cowgirl, but thats extremely rare situation, and sometimes it starts to hurt her, this also takes very long foreplay (like half an hour and even then it happens like once every 30-40 times…).
This became quite frustrating for me, I mean, I don’t feel satisfied if I don’t see her satisfaction.
Lately she told me that she tried cuming from masturbation, however after an hour of using vibrator she got tired and didn’t finish. She told me that it’s easier to use shower head and come 3 times in 10 minutes.
Well, I thought to myself, She’s got a point.
So i decided to adapt to the situation, and I suggested that I’m gonna go into the shower with her before we have sex (or sometimes after, depending on the situation of course) and help her with that. I just wanted to be present when she cums. So that’s exactly what we did. We were kissing while she was using the shower head and after 10-15 minutes she came! Great! Success!
But… I feel like that is only short term solution. I can’t imagine us doing that for the whole time. I mean I’m not against it, but I feel like this can become pretty boring for her.
My questsion is – what would you suggest doing next to bring her orgasms into the bed? I started reading this book “she comes first” wondering that maybe that’ll fix something, but I need more advice and I will be extremely thankful for any useful information!
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> hat would you suggest
First of all, respect that she knows her body best. Don’t introduce pressure for this to translate to other areas, or neither of you will have a good time. Treat it as a fun experimentation.
That means, include scenarios where you have sex with the shower head as part of it – I find that sitting in his lap with him inside me and the shower head wedged between us can be highly effective for me and very much enjoyable for him as well (because my vagina will wring him out 100% without my doing anything if I come like this).
Secondly, it’s going to be important that if she wants to translate the experience to other toys, she needs to observe exactly why the shower head works. Is it the intensity? The amplitude? What *exactly* makes it work so well? Without knowing this, you cannot hope to recreate it.
Has she tried taking an extended 3 month break from using the shower head?
you are thinking too hard about this. Women’s bodies are complicated and women desires are different than men’s. If she can cum from oral, then give her oral. Just make sure she enjoys the session and make sure you enjoy the session
She needs to stop masturbating with the shower head. When you use only one method of masturbating then your body becomes accustomed to it and doesn’t respond very well to other stimulation
Take your time. Enjoy the breakthrough re the shower head. It works. Be thankful. Take advantage of it. Maybe try some oral as an add on.
Smoke a joint or eat some edibles, have a sweet romantic evening and on focus on just giving her pleasure