I truly don’t know what to do. My MIL who is an angel has been at my house helping us pack completely steps all over my boundaries if I tell her to not do something she does it anyway or goes behind my back and asks my husband if she can do it. My husband was supposed to get deployed on a Friday and her and I had planned to leave for a cross country road trip right after he left, well they changed it last minute and he left on a Wednesday. I had to clean, take care of my two boys, I was overwhelmed, and mind you, I haven’t driven in 2 years since a car accident and this would be my first time driving again and I was getting anxious. On Thursday (husband gone) I asked her if we could wait until Friday because my boys were fussy and I can’t drive like that and she verbatim said “No. we need to leave today. I’m getting frustrated I want to go.” Anyway, my boys were fussy all day and I asked once again and she flipped out on me saying I was procrastinating, leading her on, that she “bites her tongue” with mine and my husbands parenting, said that she has a family to get back to (I completely get this which I then said she could go ahead) and lead her to flip out again. We’ll fast forward to road trip she stopped by to see her daughter then made plans to get breakfast with her (thought she was in a hurry?). Now whenever I make decisions about my kids she seems annoyed about it, I told her I needed to sleep which we did for 6 hours and then she went “I prefer to drive and sleep only a little then go” (I can’t do this I don’t drive as much as she does and she’s also used to getting no sleep). I told her we should get an Airbnb because my two boys (under two) are exhausted and fussy. She said “no we can’t do that we have to get home.” Well she asks her sister to fly in to a random city in the middle of our trip so we can get home quicker that adds a whole 4 hours to the trip. She takes no consideration what me as a mother says about my children and what I want to do. She’s also driving my car and I’m also driving my car following behind her so I think it’s pretty fair for me to say I want to get an Airbnb with my boys? I get she’s here helping but she’s condescending, tries to make all the decisions, and takes no consideration on what I say to her whatsoever. Also her whole attitude towards me changed the moment my husband left.
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Get an airbnb if you want. Who is paying for it? If going together isnt working then go seperately. Let her go her pace and you go yours.
Wish there was an advise to give. MILs are a lost case. You can’t change a mind that has turned to rock. Much of it is your husband’s problem to solve. But now that he is missing maybe try putting her in her place. Consistency is the key.