Hi y’all. So I’m a mostly extroverted girl (I still enjoy my quiet and alone time but I like being around people too and play around). There’s this older guy. (6 years older), super introverted (keeps to himself, likes the outdoors and has this weird sense of humor that I love) and I’d like to know him more but I get so shy around him and it’s super hard to read him. I don’t want to invade his privacy but I also (secretly I guess) wish I could be around him all the damn time. It’s consuming me at this point.
Any advice on how to get closer to him without freaking him out?!? He seems to not mind my presence (or maybe enjoy it, not sure lol) so maybe I have a chance to figure out my feelings by getting to know him more.. help please 🥲
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It will take a long time…
But for the beginning, its good that you have the same sense of humor. If he notices that you appreciate his “weird” jokes and you also make him laugh, he will probably see you in a different light. In a positive way. And maybe that gets him to open up more.
The thing about introverts, we mostly only talk about things we really like, so its good that you know he likes the outdoors. Maybe ask him about a good trail for hiking. And on the next occasion you see him, you can tell him about it (you should have done that hike), ask for more good trails he knows, or his favourites. Preferably, you have real interest in that things and not just in him. That could be the start for regular conversations.
But for better help, you should tell us a little bit more about you two. How old are you/ is he? Where do you know him from? What are your interests?