My friend and I had been buds for a decade now. He died about 5 months ago.
We always used to hang out and his and my girlfriend were best friends. My ex and I split up a long time ago whereas they hadn’t. I still engaged with them frequently.
Now that my friend has passed, I find it difficult to find the words to say to her. I so badly want to tell her that I’m proud of her, and that I’m happy she is doing okay.
I guess what I’m worried about is making her feel like a victim. I don’t want to make her feel like I’m pitying her either. I’m genuinely proud and I know my friend would want her to be happy.
I’d never been in this situation and I don’t want to make her feel awkward, or bring up her grief. I also don’t want her to feel like I don’t care about how she’s doing by staying silent. Maybe I’m overthinking this.
Thoughts?