We slept together a few months back. During that time, she had been split from her husband and had been for quite a few months. They split around January/February time and we slept together late July. They were apparently about to divorce and weren’t good. I’ve known both her and her husband since 2019 and while we’re good friends we haven’t been the closest people in the world.

The night in question. Work brought her and I together and we went out for some food and drinks afterwards. We were both a little tipsy and ended up spending the night together. I’ll admit the sex was mindblowing. In the morning I woke up first and got her some painkillers and just made some coffee for myself until she got up. She woke up and showered. The bathroom is ensuite to my bedroom and she came out in a towel while I was in my room. It was a little awkward but we laughed it off and she got ready and we looked for my hairdryer together. I made breakfast and we had a conversation. We talked about her husband and why they split and it seemed obvious she regretted it (she initiated the split because her family had been giving him a hard time) and missed him. I’d spoken to him too a few months back and he too seemed distraught over the split and everything. They were the picture-perfect couple and did seem deeply in love with each other. We talked about some other things and finished up breakfast, she washed dishes and I dried and put them away and she left a while after that. That morning means so much to me and it was exactly what I wanted. She was caring to me and even told me the previous night was enjoyable for her. We laughed and bonded and had a great time.

Since then, I have been contemplating my feelings for her. We’ve met a few times but things have been professional and fine, there seems to be no bad blood. I’ll admit we are a bit closer and stuff but overall nothing huge. The thing is she recently got back with her husband. I’m happy for them both and glad they worked things out, however, I feel like I’ve now fallen for her and can’t help but feel a little heartbroken now. I’m not going to try anything at all, I’m not destroying her marriage. I guess I wanted to ask how the hell I manage these feelings that are swallowing me whole.

TLDR: I slept with a woman who was married but split up at that point, they’re now back together and I don’t know what to do with my emotions.

2 comments
  1. What?

    You got drunk and had sex with a friend. It was a one off event. Your notion of catching feelings is bullshit. You had sex with someone one time and it was months ago.

    Why are you ruminating on this single moment? She took a shower after and ate breakfast? Why are you pretending that this was a mind blowing event?

    She is married. She hasn’t even entertained the notion of pursuing you romantically. Let this contrived bullshit go and maybe try dating single people.

  2. I just think you need to date more in order to stop thinking about her. You are going to have to meet someone new

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