So my wife has asked me a few times leading up to my bday what I’d like. I said I would just like a blowjob since I’ve gone down on her numerous times with no reciprocation and would love the same for just once. Well the night before I asked if she’d cuddle in bed with me for a bit in the morning before she started her day basically to make giving that blowjob easier and out the way since she would be busy and our son would wake up in an hour or 2. She agreed but when the morning came she was ready to just get out the bed and get going on her errands which she then suggested we could cuddle later that night.
When she got home in the afternoon she noticed my bulge and was playing with it but still wouldn’t give me that blowjob and insisted she give it to me before I went to work late at night. The day continues and by the evening time she needed a power nap so I waited hoping I’d get a blowjob or sex for my birthday. Well when she woke up she went to bed and fell asleep for the night. So I stayed up for no reason and became frustrated that I couldn’t get anything sexual from her on my own birthday.
She had plenty of opportunities to take the 15 minutes it would take but kept putting me off and I don’t understand because she knew how excited I was for it and was literally the only thing I’d get for my bday from her.
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You need to say something. I would be livid if my husband did that to me.
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She’s obviously not into giving you head. Is this new or something that’s always been like this? If you married her and she was like this before don’t act surprised now. She doesn’t owe you any sex act. You can also decide living for the next 40 years without head isn’t acceptable for you. Stop reciprocating oral.
Im put off by how unattractive it would sound for my husband to say “give me a bj for my bday”. Oh wait, my exhusband did say that.
Sex is so much better spontaneous and bj’s are a pleasing selfless act. Being asked for it just seems for childlike and cheap.
Im confused about birthday blowjobs. I get blowjobs everytime i have sex with my wife and i dont even havr to go down on her. Sometimes i do. Have sex 2-3 a week. My guess is guys that dont get blow jobs their wived just are not feeling them like that. Its not that she not in the mood, she not in the mood for you
Ask her why she doesn’t like to go
down on you. She may have a reason that is legit. Address it and hopefully she will reciprocate. Or next time you go down on her try to make it so your p is in her face, get into that good 69 position. But while in that position you need to go slow and try to entice her, hopefully she will give in. Unfortunately not all women are into BJ’s. Take her to a local Spencer’s and buy flavored lubs. Or look up a sexy game that can lead to that. I was shocked to hear that most of my women friends don’t do it! Sad to hear especially when their husbands are so dam hot! I LOVE BJ’s! I love how it makes my man feel! He doesn’t go down on me as much as I do him but who’s counting! As long as I can climb on that p while it’s hard as a rock and a bonus cum for me it’s a Win Win!
I don’t think this is so much about getting a blowjob as it is about broken promises. OP is hurt that she didn’t make him a priority, one his special day.
If she wasn’t in the mood, could she have communicated that nicely instead of leaving you hoping for a broken promise? — or could she have even offered to do it another time when she feels up for it? If the answer is yes, she is in the wrong for sure for sure.
I would communicate nicely to her that she hurt you because she promised you something, got your hopes up, then folded. I would ask please next time don’t do that.
If she has no desire to communicate her feelings or stop making empty promises, there may be bigger problems to resolve in the relationship than birthday bjs.