First up the main details. This is not a situation of a humble brag or anything. I have an above average length penis nothing too massive but it curves upward and this is where I feel the problem lies.
I still haven’t experimented enough to decide that i’m the problem but my girlfriend is just not able to enjoy the sex in the normal missionary and doggy style positions. She says it feels good for a while but then the moment i go faster she says it feels like i’m stabbing her and that it’s hurting her abdomen. Upon me asking her, she says she’s never faced this issue before and to be honest, I haven’t either or at least i think so i don’t have a super extensive sexual history. We’re super attracted to each other and every other part leading up the sex is incredible but the penetration part we haven’t fully been able to get through. She definitely enjoys it better without a condom and when she’s on top but I’m unable to sort of have the crazy rough different positions type sex and i’m worried it’ll affect our relationship.
On a side note, cause i’m a complete idiot and i asked a question about her POS toxic ex i didn’t want an answer to, she said her he was bigger than me, not in length, but in girth, which tbh, bothers me for some reason cause in my head it would’ve filled her up more or whatever. So here’s my trouble, we have this amazing relationship that’s been going on for a couple of months and I’m worried that this one aspect (our sex life) hasn’t been perfect. She says we’ll figure it out together and that she loves me and that i make her really happy but I really want to be the best lover she’s had and I need advice on how to make that happen?
tl;dr i feel my upward curving penis is causing problems in my sex life and i need tips.
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Sounds like maybe you’re going too deep, try keeping your thrusts more shallow.
What about talk with a sexologue for that ? I want to help you but I don’t know what to say here
I understand why your 24 meter penis would hurt your girlfriend.
Are you sure you’re having enough foreplay to really warm her up? Or maybe you just need to go slower when starting piv sex, give her more time to adjust to your lenght. As a woman, sometimes I crave that dick inside of me and I try to cut the foreplay short, but when piv starts he can still hurt me as I’m not as warmed up and relaxed as I thought I would be, and he just goes really slow until I can take it all in.
I don’t know how often you have sexual intercourses, but it has also happened that I was fully ready and all relaxed, but I was close to my period and it was more difficult to have sex as I would feel pain every time my bf tried to go all the way. I think it’s an edge case though, while it seems to be happening every time for you, but it’s worth considering it.
Above all else, you have to remember that different women have different sizes just like men have. She may just have a “short” vagina and you may need to experiment to see which positions work and which don’t. I can assure you though, it’s not uncommon in a couple to have some positions that just don’t work, you have to experiment and see if you are compatible in a way that leaves you both satisfied.
Can I suggest you try spooning sex? She should be able to control the depth by opening or closing her legs, while you’d still be able to be in control of the thrusts.
Good luck!
They have a product (can’t remember the name) that is like a ring that you put around your dick to stop you from going in too deep.
r/bigdickproblems
Search for the bumper or ohnut. You also don’t have to put it all the way in.
Just don’t go so deep.
Also, don’t worry about previous partners. To become someone’s best lover is about many things – definitely not just sticking it in. She loves you. Treat her right, tease her. Make her cum harder than ever before. Do something romantic.
Your dick is so big it’s hurting her but you’re still threatened by her ex’s size even though yours is LITERALLY BIGGER?? Sheesh, male neurosis in a nutshell (and I say this with empathy as a neurotic male in my own right).
My ex was huge. Some positions get you deeper than others. I would focus on positions that don’t allow you to get too deep (ex. spooning) unless she specifically asks for that. That’s how we did it…. It still did hurt (in a good way) even with a lot of foreplay. My stomach would hurt or I’d have a very small amount of bleeding occasionally after from the deep penetration when we really went at it. You’ll start realizing what positions work for you both but it’s also good to have a system. I would tap out (tap on his arm or leg for him to slow down and/or change positions) when it was becoming too much for me.
I am also in pain for the most part of any PIV sex because I have a retroverted uterus. Your girlfriend might have one too. She should get a pelvic exam or an ultrasound.