Let’s get straight to the point, I love men and sexual activities such as making out, fingering,etc. But I can’t have sex, I simply don’t want to, I know that I’m a person who wants to have their first sex on the honeymoon after getting married, but when I realize that I literally HAVE TO have sex after getting married, it makes me never want to marry. Also I know that I can do sexual things only if I really love that person and I need to be emotionally connected to the person so that I can be turned on and to do things I gladly do, actually.
So I’m constantly asking myself why, I mean WHO doesn’t want to have sex if they are not asexual, cause I know for sure that I am not asexual. So I’m asking if there’s somebody who knows what’s going on and why? Maybe I’m just not ready or there’s something else but I can’t think of anything ,soo help please? If someone has been through sm like this,or anyone who has any sort of knowledge or just Your opinion, lmk . Ty in advance. ( p. s. I do sometimes wish to have sex but I know I’ll regret it immediately)🤗🥲myb I could just go and visit psychologist lmao.
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What’s the reason you want to wait until your honeymoon?
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Maybe your lesbian
Hmm, you get to pick what you need to have sex. If you want and need that emotional connection, that’s fine! If you decided you wanted to try it before marriage, that’s something you could give yourself permission to do. Either way, the choice is yours, which is maybe some comfort.
I believe you when you say you would regret it if you tried it, but I think it’s partly because you believe you would so firmly. If you could put that into words it might make more sense.
“Sex is dirty so save it for marriage” – any chance you grew up with that thinking?