How real is sexual compatibility?

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1. Sexual compatibility is a real thing.

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   >What if the person you are with isn’t compatible with you sexually, but fills other voids? Do you stay and make it work?

   That’s a very tough question. If you do decide to stay, sex therapy can help.

2. Yes, it’s a real thing. It just depends on your priorities. As a hypersexual person, I would establish sexual compatibility with someone before becoming serious but it’s not as important to everyone

3. Absolutely real. Relationships are all about compromise and communication so if you think it is worth it to stay, then stay, just remember it is your choice. And just because you aren’t compatible now doesn’t mean you won’t be in the future, just remember to communicate.

4. Good question. I think the answer is sometimes yes and sometimes no.

   I’ve never had a partner where every single thing lines up sexually and even where it has doesn’t mean everything else outside of sex lined up.

   You just gotta look at the Venn diagram of everything and see if there is enough in the space where you overlap. And even then you might be happy with it but the other person not.

   It also changes over time. You might want more sexually or not as much. And other things like kids and illness Han shift those priorities.

5. It’s real. And an open conversation can help. If it’s a frequency incompatibility therapy and compromise can help. If there’s something that you need but your partner can’t provide there could be a conversation about inviting others to join as well.

6. Sexual compability is a real thing and very important to me in relationships.

   I have been burned badly by incompatible libidoes, so I have these kinds of boundaries in dating: I will only date people who are really well sex educated, who know about libidoes and NRE and know their own baseline libido and it matches mine. I will only stay in relationships where regular sex happens, including oral both ways.

   To me, sex IS the number one void to be fulfilled by my partner. Other compability is just extra, being best friends etc. Sex is what makes a romantic relationship, a romantic relationship, if it’s missing then that’s a friendship.

7. Very real thing, depends how important sex is to you. I couldn’t be with someone I wasn’t sexually compatible with.