Being nice won’t make your life easier.

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1. I think it depends. I ve always been the type to make people laugh and make people feel good and create a nice atmosphere in a party or group. I ve always had many friends and connections because of my way of being. Most of the people that know me always smile when they see me. Many times when I go holiday w groups of friends or business trips I feel like I m getting a lot of attention because of the way I am and also it translates to the ladies because many times I m hitting way over my league just because of my being a good person energy at work or when going out with friends. I think you should treat people good until they prove you otherwise and then just give them the cold treatment. I wouldn’t say I m nice because I can be menacing to people I don’t like but the only people I don’t like are the ones that are bad people in general.

2. >Trust me, I learned it the hard way. When you are being nice, you expect life to do the same, Wrong. Be

   The choices of others, have nothing to do with me being nice, or kind rather. Being nice is something that I choose because it makes me happy. I’m not doing it for other people and I expect nothing from them.

   I think that’s the first mistake you’re making, adopting an emotional framework in order to have it reciprocated. Adopt it because you’d rather be nice regardless and it becomes the basis for solid character.

3. I disagree, you are conflating kindness with agreeableness. You don’t have to do as everyone says and be a vehement people pleaser to be kind.

   Being nice has absolutely gotten me further in life! It’s helped me through my education, my social hobbies, helped me get a job, I’m never without a friend because very, *very* few people dislike me.

   Learn to be diplomatic, and politely disagree with people. Have sympathy for fellow people, but gauge how appropriate and sensible it would be to act on it. But definitely don’t go round assuming people needing your sympathy are manipulating you.

4. Be selfish, its the only way trust me

5. Follow this simple rule :
   “A little bit, but not too much.”

   *if it’s not against the law
   I see you coming you mfs

6. My therapist tells me I shouldn’t compromise my kind heart for the easier path. It’s all about learning to assert/defend yourself in a way that’s respectful of everyone involved. Things are not black and white every situation is going to look different, most of which you can just take a mental note and never see that person again. Low as well as high self esteem are ego centric. You’re better off being self indifferent and learning to avoid being the one that’s picked on (work on not being weird to others, I’ve been there and it sucks). I assume you’re young, life gets a lot less emotional and a lot more simple:)good luck