I’ve been thinking about going to night clubs because of a friend. He often gets DJ’ing gigs, and seemed to have been having a great time meeting lots of great and interesting people that are just as charming and cool as him. Thing is, places that are high-strung and energetic aren’t my scene and will drain my social-battery very quickly… but I still really do want to try to familiarise myself with that part of my friend’s world little by little. Does anyone here have a suggestion as to how I could gradually get into it?
Just for point of reference, I tend to go places like a Creative Centre or a library. Being able to work on new projects like sketching/3D modeling/songwriting/story ideas while listening to podcasts about fashion history research, sewing/embroidery tips, botany, AskAMortician… or just jamming to AURORA & Yeule with a bottle of tea in hand gives me a lot of enjoyment. Though, I understand that it’s rather slow-paced and relaxed when compared to the party scenes with big gathering and high-energy vibes.
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You have to go with friends if you go alone you will be rejected every time. I’ve gone alone and nobody wants me around there and when I asked for advice here people told me I was an idiot and needed a group of friends and that is what people did for thousands of years
I go to shows alone ALL the time. It’s tough to meet people initially since it’s so loud but it’s also just super fun to lose yourself in the music – since it’s dark and crowded no one is really looking at you. I meet most people in the smoking section (do not start smoking – it’s a shitty habit) or at the bar making small talk. Liquid courage helps. A lot of times when people realize I’m by myself I get brought into the fold – we already share a common bond in the music, so chances are we have other things in common too. Have fun out there and stay safe!