A pretty generic fear, but it terrifies me. (honestly probably going to have this post taken down) I am only the age of 17 (Female and Bisexual), and not really looking to date anytime soon. I want to focus on my studies and work hard as a being before I get out there. But what if I never can?
First, I have food allergies to tree nuts and peanuts and shellfish. I have horrible anxiety to my allergies and have a lot of trauma. I also have trauma to vomiting, to the points where I will stay up at night because of panic. I have panic attacks at least every day or every two days and I hate going out to dinner (mostly because of the allergy thing) and also because I hate going outside the house. I like video games and staying indoors and I am just.. so terrified that I will never find that person.. because of those issues
When I think of dates, I think of people going out to dinner or watching a movie or something outside the house, but I am terrified of all those things! Is it normal for others not to do that? I feel like everyone I know is genuinely stress free and doesn’t have to worry about those kind of things. What about anxiety? Won’t your partner be scared is someone says they deal with that kind of thing? Same with allergies? I feel like I have lists and lists of issues that people just won’t want to deal with.
I guess the generic question is.. How to I get over that fear, and is it normal? How do couples deal with someone who has “issues” how do you work through it together? This post is kind of all over the place but I needed it to be written down somewhere.
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Wow, I’m literally twice your age. Um, you have plenty of time to do whatever, so you should just have fun?
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I dated a woman I met in World of Warcraft for years once (irl). You can play games and meet people if you want. If someone can’t deal with your allergies and preferences (so no movies/dinner) for a date, they aren’t going to make a good long time partner. We had a lot of fun playing games together.
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Also, my first friend from high school got married last year. my step brother (my age) got married two years ago (that’s not a lot of time when you’re my age lol). Have fun while you’re young. Save the worrying for later!