I got friends at college but I feel like I’m invisible when with a group. I just feel like no one’s really interested in getting to know me as a individual. I feel like I know quite a bit more about my friends then they know about me. I guess I might be pretty guarded but I don’t really get any opportunities to share.
Sorry for the rant format, just wanted to get it off my chest.
I guess this is all stemming from how I feel like I’m not a valued friend to the people I value. This might be a incorrect narrative, but it doesn’t deny that I feel this way. Any suggestions on how to stop feeling this way/ get my friends to “value” me more?
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get new friends. ones that see your value from the start.
I think it depends on how valued and confident you feel as a part of the group. I’ve been in groups where I felt like a church mouse, while everyone else was chatting it up with each other.
Even if they aren’t overtly rude, it can wear you down after a while. Like you feel your intruding on conversation. My recommendation, if you’ve tried being outgoing, but nothing changes, then Move on.