I’m 18 and male. The 22 year old in question is also male.
But I’m bisexual as in, I’m attracted to men and women.
I’m a freshman in college. I started August 31st and I’ve had trouble getting to know new people. So I ended up downloading Bumble in an attempt to look for “BFFs.”
I matched with a 22 year old man and we chatted for a bit. He thinks I’m really cool and I give good vibes.
Both of us mentioned being bisexual, so that means he isn’t only into women either.
We plan to meet up Monday on campus and I’m looking forward to it. Any tips? And is it a really big gap?
I don’t have any friends that old. My oldest friends are literally 19. Like finished high school 1 year before I did.
So this is a huge step above since this dude is 4 years older me, on top of the fact that if on the rare chance, it becomes dating, this would be my first ever relationship.
Tips?
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It’s up to you. Some will say it’s weird. Others will say go for it
the gap is small-medium imo, i’d say leave it since you’re already doubting it and it’s your first relationship however i say leave it, you seem really uncomfortable by it, and that’s okay.
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the gap isn’t inherently predatory though, i’m 21 and have a handful of 17 year old female friends, wouldn’t let it go further than friendship however.
The age gap is small enough to not be an issue unless alcohol is involved. However, the fact that he’s a senior/ graduated and you’re a freshman is alarming. He feels powerful and knows that you’re a lost puppy. It will be very, very easy for him to take advantage of you.