Sometimes I worrier im going to end up with someone who doesn’t quite get what turns me on. I’ve never been with a guy who didn’t melt in my hand the second I told them want I wanted to do and be done to me. But in practice, maybe theyll hit the mark right once or twice but theyre too timid. They just cant keep up.
Im very strongly a switch. I want to pin them down, let my spit drip into their mouth while I make them squirm under me with the most torturously slow and deep fucking right when they’re so close to coming, listening to them moan and whimper at my touch. And at the same time I want them to slam me against a wall with their hand tight around my neck, whispering in my ear to ‘be a good girl and get on your knees for daddy’ to have them grab my jaw as they’re fucking me and tell me to look at them ‘I want to see in your eyes when I make you cum’
People just don’t seem to get it, theyre stuck in their head. I’ve been told ‘I just don’t know what you want me to do next’ more than once. Are you sick of being domed? Great! I guarantee you’re stronger than me, use it! Pull me off you and shove my face into the pillows to let me know, tell me you’re ‘done getting teases’ that youre going to make me ‘pay for torturing [you] like that’. Be active, be loud, be confident thats what I want
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Am I reading right that you want both at the same time? I’m so rarely like that (I’m also a switch). For the most part I either want one or the other (dom or sub) but rarely both at the same time.
Not clear here if you are negotiating specific acts when you’re not fucking but they need to be told what to do in the moment or if you are against listing what constitutes rough dominant sex to you at all (like using the word choking), but for men it’s absolutely a huge risk of victimizing someone if you aren’t very careful so you need your partner to very explicitly consent to specific sex acts, even if it is outside any particular scene. Any good dom will negotiate limits.
I’ll throw my 2 cents in. I feel like you. Sometimes I want to be in charge and dominate. Sometimes, I’d also like to be thrown down and commanded what to do/taken advantage of. All my partners are an either/or. Only once in my life has it meshed. I dated this girl that was a black belt in jiu jitsu. The sex was VERY physical. Just like you mentioned, I was either throwing her down and slapping her or she was wrapping her legs around me and pinning me. Some dirty talk, demeaning talk…
I’ve been looking for the same thing as you… They’re out there. It’s just hard to find someone on the same wavelength.