okay so, I’ve been seeing this guy since about late January. We’ve kind of been on and off, but recently gotten significantly closer.
It was his birthday a couple of days ago, and I’m seeing him next week. I want to get him a gift, but I also don’t want to weird him out in what could be seen as a ‘too much’ gesture. I don’t know how long this is going to last really, but I also do want to get him something to show that I do care lol.
Was thinking of getting a book, or maybe wine, or just paying for dinner when we do go out? I’m a visual artist, so I was considering making some work for him, but that also feels very coded.
Is it weird if it isn’t immediately consumable?
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You’re over thinking it. Wine and a book would be nice. Dinner is even better. Hey I’d like to take us to dinner to celebrate your birthday since I missed it last week! Done awesome!
I think a book or bottle of wine would be a lovely gift. It conveys a lovely sentiment, without making coming off as “too much”.
Also, I don’t think you should feel embarrassed to show someone you care by gifting them something on their birthday:). It’s very kind of you.
I think a book is great, it’s low-pressure and not overly personal or expensive. Wine is a good companion to either that or dinner, which is also a pretty low-pressure thing. As an artist myself, I wouldn’t suggest making a piece—I’ve definitely been burned making people paintings in the past, be it boyfriends that I wish I still had the piece (and have no idea what happened to it) or friends who wildly misinterpreted the gesture.
A little gift never hurts anyone. In fact it probably makes them like you more. Imagine u were in their boots and u got a gift.