I have never had sex nor fooled around with someone.
I recently started to see a guy and he tried to lick and play with my nipples to make me orgasm but it just doesn’t happen.I hate my boobs and I’m so insecure and self conscious about them. Same with my p***y, he tried to masturbate me through my pants because I’m not ready for him to actually touch me there and I couldn’t get off. He rubbed me at different paces but I just didn’t feel anything, no wetness and no pleasure.
I like him, I can get wet from the way he kisses me or talk to me but other than that nothing.
Is it possible that this happens because nobody has ever done anything to me? I mean I do masturbate but I rarely actually have orgasms.. maybe I don’t know how to do it but I feel so strange
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I think the most likely reason is because you’re anxious and haven’t experienced anything yet. You’re feeling insecure, you’re not sure about certain things, and it’s nearly impossible to enjoy yourself physically when your head is all Full of worries and concerns.
This is normal.
Sex and sex acts are about being in the moment, they’re physical. I think if you want to enjoy being touched, try touching yourself at home and relax. Learn what you enjoy on your own, and when you’re with a partner, communicate with them about what works for you. Your partner can’t read your mind, so be sure to let them know what feels good and what doesn’t.
A lot of peoples nipples aren’t sensitive or aren’t sensitive enough to gain satisfaction from- let alone orgasm from it.
Is your partner inexperienced too? If so, then you’re both learning *together*. You’re not in this alone.
Hi!
First of all, almost nobody orgasms from nipple play. It’s very, very, veeeery uncommon, so don’t worry about that.
Second of all, you sound young and he sounds young too, so chances are, he’s also unexperienced and doesn’t know how to get you off yet. I think you should wait until you’re comfortable with him taking your clothes off (not that you have to be! If it doesn’t happen, it doesn’t happen and you shouldn’t pressure yourself) so he can properly see where he’s touching you, and you can feel the direct contact, which is more intense.
And finally, wait til you’re more comfortable and talk to him, tell him what you like and dislike, what you’d want to try…
Don’t worry too much about it. You’ll figure it out with time