It’s been more than a week since I regrettably broke up with him. I begged him to take me back he said we’d still talk and that things would be ok, but he never replied to my texts again. He said we shouldn’t date and that feels like a knife to my chest. The relationship didn’t even last long, but i felt and still feel he’s the one… How to move on? Saying I’ll find someone else doesn’t make me stop thinking or living for him .
I stressed him out so bad, i lost myself in the relationship. Everything i did was for him, the things i liked i did because of him, now what i do now has no meaning… I wake up hoping he has replied. Im not looking for other people, because I feel he’ll be back.
I want to get better and find my sense of self but in the very back of my mind I know I’m doing it for him. If I do that i can show i changed when he message again and we’ll be together. I know it’s wrong i don’t know how to stop. I don’t know how to love myself i need advice. My days have little to no meaning.
Tldr: i broke up with him but still hope he’ll be back. Everything i did was for him, now things have no meaning. I’m trying to get better, but still in hopes that hell realize it and have me back. I don’t know how to find myself again or how to find meaning in things i do, if it only reminds me of him. I don’t want to find someone else rn. Any advice? How not to repeat this?
Ps: I’m in therapy but last session was before my ex telling me we should not date.
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He’s not the one. You will be just fine without him. Do not give everything you have to another person, that’s not healthy.
Get back to therapy and work on finding your self worth. You will never find your self worth in another person.
If you were doing most of the work in the relationship then it’s time to go to counseling or say goodbye
Hey honey, here’s something to think about: if “everything” you did was for him, you were never yourself. You were what you thought he wanted.
Now that he’s gone, you can work on getting in touch with your authentic being. That sort of freedom heals like a miracle.
You are on the right track being in therapy. It is not healthy to be so wrapped up in another person that you lose your sense of self. Once you come to value yourself as a person, you will find it easier to accept letting go of someone who doesnt value you.