I (25f) have only ever been with my husband, for context. He has expressed more than once that he wants me to show more sexy behavior and sexual confidence. I want the same from him, tbh, but he insists that we both have to put effort into being sexy for the other person, which I can agree with.
The problem is, I don’t honestly know what he means by acting sexy and confident. I don’t really know how to do that, other than wearing more revealing clothes.
So men of Reddit, what are some actions, behaviors, etc. that your wife/gf that are sexy to you? Or what are things guys picture when they imagine a sexy, confident woman?
I really feel clueless.
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Start with smal things, like grab his butt and random kisses on the nexk
Dress like Julia Roberts from Pretty Woman.
Being sexy for your partner,should come naturally,little things to show you care and make him feel wanted,it’s a two way street,should be reciprocated from your partner or you are doing all the work and you have to feel needed too,for me,that feeling of being wanted,is more important than anything in a relationship,good luck girl
Maybe someone would find issue with this, but something I have thought of regarding this question:
Ask him to describe a couple, not you guys- but a generic couple in a movie or story or something. What does the woman do to turn the guy on? What does the guy do? Use that conversation about those “people” to learn what he likes. Because that is the key: diving into what his buttons are, so that you can push them. We can’t really give you a good answer, only he can.
Surprise him with some sexy under wear and wear it confidently around the house or to bed
beside revealing clothes.
be naughty and playful. come to him from behind go inside his pants and grab his dick. lift your shirt up, play with your nipples while looking at him. start touching yourself/masturbate when you watch tv together. pretty much just do whatever you want when you’re horny and don’t be ashamed for it when you’re at home and it’s just 2 of you.
A sexy uniform will do it esp as a surprise. Maid, stewardess, schoolgirl etc.
Also greeting him with some handcuffs for him to put on you
Walk around the house in your underwear could be new ones or just ones your comfortable with. Also, just ask him when you watch something together what he likes about a character that makes her sexy and do that. Men are generally more visually stimulated so anything you can do to visually portray you want him generally goes well. Does he like sexting with you?
Spontaneity always turns me on
It’s mainly the behavior that indicates you’re interested in sex. Playful teasing. Intimate kissing and touching. Suggestive looks.
What turns you on? Exploring your own sexuality apart from him and then inviting him to join is incredibly sexy. What clothes or lingerie make you feel amazing? What connects you to your body (dance, yoga, etc)? What erotica is most exciting for you to read?
Awakening to your unique sensuality and including him in that world can be a fun adventure for you both!
Maybe do a boudoir or pinup-style photo shoot. I am sure he would love you sharing those pictures with him.
Look in His eyes while sucking his cock