I’m a virgin and so is my bf but I want to give him a blowjob.
I asked a friend who’s Advice was that the idea of “sucking” a dick like consistently is a myth and just hurts your mouth after 2 minutes. Instead she said you just have it chilling in your mouth while you stroke it and every once in a while give it a strong suck, like it’s a straw but your drink isnt coming up as hard as you can. Particularly as he cums just hoover it out of him.
That doesn’t sound right but she said her boyfriends yet to complain about it and she does it every time so?
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There are many techniques to use when giving head, and you really have to try them out on your boyfriend and find out what he likes.
And even with the same boy, it’s going to situational depending on the mood and what you both are feeling like in a given moment.
My guy likes it when I just give a nonstop hard suck some days, forcing him to cum like that. Other days that is too much for him and then he likes it when I do other things.
Pay attention to your boyfriend’s reactions, rather than to the opinion of a friend *who is not him.*
Suction really isn’t necessary at all. 😏
Suction usually makes it better. But not the whole time
Personally not into the suction feeling. Much more important is:
– Enthusiasm is the most important thing, which means feeling like you’re totally into it and loving the fact that you are in control
– Tongue work, feeling your tongue moving around and pressed against the shaft during long oral strokes is amazing, and teasing long licks are great to get things going
– Mixing it up, switching between working the head/frenulum and long oral strokes, and varying between teasing slow and fast
A little suction during orgasm can feel good, but otherwise it doesn’t feel good for me.
Your mouth provides physical stimulation to his penis much the same way as your pussy, which is not strongly creating suction on his dick. Your tongue creates a lot of the sensation that makes a blowjob feel so good. And bobbing up and down on the penis with your mouth sliding up and down on his penis. Have fun.
All of it!
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As many people have already commented there are many techniques you can try, but it really depends on your BF’s body/ preferences and on the moment.
You are inexperienced so I think it will have a learning curve. I would recommend to treat him in a way that you would like to be treated, try to read the room and see how he responds and how he feels. Also, it is not a performance, it is fun for you both so don’t be afraid to communicate and ask for his feedback and guidance. Lastly, always make sure that you are comfortable with what you are doing, don’t force yourself to do something that feels bad because you saw it in porn or because someone else pushed you to try. Take care!
For me the suction is by far the best. Some tongue mixed in helps, but the suction is critical.
Interestingly enough sucking dick and giving blow jobs don’t necessarily involve either sucking nor blowing. Similarly, eating pussy doesn’t involve any actual eating.
So don’t blow and don’t let him eat, but you can try a little bit of sucking at times, but need not concentrate on sucking.
Ask him for nudes (a video of him having a wank specifically) and watch his technique to see what sort of movement and areas feel best for him and try to replicate that with your mouth
Turn you mouth into a hand. Glide up and down with your mouth as if your giving a hand job. Not to hard or tight. Suck the top like it a really cold frozen treat but not too hard. Watch for his facial response. Keep you tongue moving all over. You’ll know if he’s enjoying it.
So I’m a bi guy so I have experience in receiving and giving.
A good way to start is after getting him hard go ahead and lick up and down his shaft for a little slowly. Then you put his dick in your mouth but only the tip at first. You don’t want to suck mega hard on it. Really you just want form a seal around his dick. So the pressure you use changes to keep it consistent. Just bob you head up and down the shaft and your already doing it and work from there.
Extra tips!
-if you want to drive him nuts focus the tip while jerking him off with your hand.
Keep yourself well hydrated and your lips moist, practice covering your teeth with your lips (teeth on bj is a BIG no-no), If you have any phallic shaped hard food like corn or a cucumber practice with it.
The underside of the head is particularly very sensitive, practice teasing that area with your tongue gently but firmly. Alternatively you can rest your tongue flatly and practice taking it in while gently swishing it side to side. As for pressure sucking it really isn’t the primary pleasure factor I find (in fact a firm but gently build up tends to go a LOT more intense).
Lastly, relax yourself mentally. You are new to this and hopefully he is aware of that. He can help guide what feels good to him, and what will be most important to him is that you let yourself get into it. Let yourself feel sexy! Make moans, keep a steady but enthusiastic pace! Don’t rush, let him know you enjoy it. And if you need to take a break don’t think you have to keep going or quickly finish him off to stay in the moment. Take a break and stroke it or lick it.
Hope it goes well for you!
Whatever technique you find if you want it to be REALLY good lube up a finger and finger his ass just up to the first knuckle. Wiggle it in circle. It’s excesty
Its definitely the lip-kissing and the tongue pokes right under the rim that make me go MAD with love. Sucking the balls is also fun and hard to go wrong with lol
Change and variations add a lot. Try lots of different things and see what works. A lot of suction might make your mouth tired, a lot of licking might make your tongue tired, just holding it in your mouth might be good for a pause/tease but will get boring after a bit. Use hands sometimes for a stroke, or to just hold it and look at it, pull the foreskin back gently, or rub one hand over the whole penis while you hold it with the other hand. You can kiss it, some slow wet pecks, and you can kiss it with tongue. You can lick it from bottom to top a few times, go down to the balls and gently lick there, then go back to the top for a strong suck and roll your tongue around the head. Then you can just stop and use your hands again to gently tease.
Play around with a bunch of things and see what you enjoy and what he enjoys. You can even ask him to tell you how it feels as you’re doing it. Then get him to do the same for you later if you think that would be fun
Well…it’s not a straw. So don’t suck it like it’s a Slurpee. It’s more tongue with gentle sucking.
suction is not as important as one might think, i’d recommend r/deepthroat for pointers
That’s actually not terrible advice
I don’t suck, it’s not necessary