I took the likable person test and my lowest score was friendliness. Highest score was honesty, followed by kindness and humor. I feel like once people get to know me they usually like me, but when they first meet me I’m too standoffish and they draw away. I believe if I acted more friendly and cordial I would have more friends. How can I learn to act more friendly? I am autistic and have social anxiety
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When you catch eyes with someone don’t look away. Smile and nod. Don’t walk with your head down. Walk with your chin up. Also be aware that sometimes if you’re in your own world while you’re walking you might have a resting bitch face so try to walk with a slight grin.
If you pass by someone on the street smile and say good morning. Talk more often. If you notice something funny instead of keeping it to yourself mention it to the person next to you. I don’t mean if you suddenly start thinking about a scene from some random anime I mean if you notice something within your surroundings that the other person can also see.
Don’t overthink things. For example if one of these encounters ends up being awkward who cares? If it’s just a random person who happens to be around you at the moment then chances are you’ll never see this person again. Even if you do see them again chances are they forgot about the awkwardness minutes after it happened .
Are you in school? Do you work? If not pick up a hobby. Preferably one that involves being outside or with other people. That way you could have more chances to interact with people.
How can you learn to act more friendly? Jack Schafer worked for the FBI as an FBI agent and wrote a book titled, The Like Switch. I’ll also leave his short YouTube video under my post.
I don’t know if his information is still current. But the idea is to send non-verbal friend signals. For example. Use an eyebrow flash, a head tilt, or a simple smile.
– https://youtu.be/45Y9lz2-9ZQ
What else.. how do you dress? Maybe work on your personal attractiveness and think ‘a cut from the same cloth’ – that is, people who look alike, dress alike. Umm, hope this helped you!?
How can you learn to act more friendly? Jack Schafer worked for the FBI as an FBI agent and wrote a book titled, The Like Switch. I’ll also leave his short YouTube video under my post.
I don’t know if his information is still current. But the idea is to send non-verbal friend signals. For example. An eyebrow flash, a head tilt, or a simple smile.
– https://youtu.be/45Y9lz2-9ZQ