In my opinion it’s easy to mess up the early stage of talking on dating apps. Whether you try to be funny and it completely fails or if you take the safe boring route and they just don’t reply. So maybe it’s just better to leave all that out and have a first date where you know nearly nothing about that person. Obviously you’d have to have a strong dating profile with good pictures and bio but I’m thinking it might be worth a try. I have a friend who has adopted this approach and it has actually gone fairly well for him.
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Yeah I have in the past. I had a woman message me with a brief paragraph about herself, then asked if I wanted to meet at a nearby cafe the next day as she really couldn’t be bothered with the whole online dating thing. I agreed and met her.
Perish the thought! I would block and ghost any man who would ask me on a date like that. Either his standards are so low that that’s all it takes to want to go on a date with someone, and/or just wants to go for the sake of it, or he’s being super sus in the more obvious predatory way.
I’ve made dates / arranged hookups with several woman in under 5 message
I generally try to always ask to meet within 2-5 days and if they say no or are ambivalent I move on
Messaging should be intro > light flirting > arrange a meet asap IMO
I feel like you can’t really know over text if you will like someone IRL