I am on a basketball team and my dad gives me rides to and from practice. A guy from my school recently joined me team and never has a ride so he always asks me for one. His house is pretty far away from mine so my dad has to go out of his way to drive him.
Now, he always expects me to give him a ride to every practice and if I tell him no, he keeps on asking me why and I don’t know what to say anymore. What could I start telling my teammate to stop him from asking me for rides?
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“I go to my my nans before practice now, so my Dad picks me up from there. Will be well too out the way to pick you up now”
If you’re not the one driving you can just say that it’s not up to you since you’re not the driver nor the owner of the car.
My dad says it’s too far – let’s put out a text to the team to see if anyone else lives out that way.
“Gas is really expensive and you don’t live close by.”
Tell him your dad said no. That’s what parents are for!
Does your dad mind? If not, why not help your teammate out? That is what mates are for, isn’t it?
How would you feel if he has to quit the team because he doesn’t have a ride?
Be kind to others.
Id go to the coach. explain the situation. its sucks if this family cant drive him, or doesnt own a car. Im sure practice is really important to him. is he a nice guy? that could really make the difference in how much extra effort others are willing to make.
Your putting way too much thought into it.
When he asks say “No, sorry” . And when he asks why “Because at first it was a favour, not for every practice” .
There is no justifyable response from the person following this that could make you seem like a bad person, its their responsibility to get to their practice if they choose to practice there.
These gas prices are too high to be going out of the way for ppl. I’d understand if he was ur neighbor but he lives far so hell no. He either needs to find a way to get to ur house so u can give him a ride or find a new way to get to practice. Just say it wasn’t supposed to be an everyday thing, just a favor.. like someone else commented.
Ask why he has such a hard time taking no for an answer. That usually makes them stop in my experience
Tell him it’s too far out of the way.
not your problem also even if he’s your friend. replying by saying no doesn’t mean your a terrible friend and if he’s a good friend . i’m sure he would understand . my dad doesn’t have enough time to fetch you , sorry dude
He could really need a ride tho, if it’s not a massive inconvenience,….. if it is , see if someone else is going that way.
If it is too expensive or prohibitively inconvenient, that is one thing… but seriously saddened by a lot of these responses. Smh. In high school, I picked up people for practices all over town, even though I lived close to the school. It was inconvenient but I could make the time and my parents could afford it– theirs couldn’t. Even at 16 I understood that for a lot of people, getting a ride is the difference between playing a sport and not.
Tell him u can’t , cause it’s far . What’s so hard about that lmao
Yea. I’m a dad, just tell him your dad isn’t cool with driving so far out of the way anymore. Period. Dads are good for that kind of stuff.
Eh, you have no idea how the simple act of a ride can positively impact a young man’s life.
Sometimes I have to bite my tongue, but when I can, I provide rides to anyone that may need them. Yes, it’s and expense, yes it’s an inconvenience, yes it’s irritating. But if I can make a difference in someone’s life, then I try hard to make it happen.
You never really know what’s going on in someone’s life and how your act of kindness can make a huge difference.
I mean it you could ask what his situation is and suggest he go to the coach if he’s having trouble finding a ride. No need to be a dick about it and ask people on the internet how to blow him off.
Is your dad upset about it? What’s the problem?