sleep after a fight

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1. I use to be that way, tbh from my Personal experience I know I’ve changed to where staying up and pondering it does me no good. I’m better off just going to sleep and ignoring/escaping it for a while. Not that my feelings aren’t hurt and I’m not upset but if the argument is going no where and it’s basically ended there is no reason for me to continue to hurt myself thinking of what I could have should have would have said.

2. This is interesting. Usually, it’s the husband that falls asleep quickly and the wife making this statement. It’s easy to forget it can go the other way as well.

   It would definitely be my husband that would fall asleep, nothing keeps him awake..lol I’d be the one up all night, and have been back in our younger days. Now I take a sleeping pill, so if we had a fight, I’d probably get be a sleep to..

3. Arguments are exhausting and could be her emotional capacity peak.

4. Mine will be laughing about a text or a TikTok while I’m still fuming and it’s infuriating, like it’s not serious enough to have an effect on her.

5. How often do y’all fight where you’ve noticed a pattern here?

6. She might be so exhausted by it, that she needs to recover.

7. Some people shut down and become emotionally flooded and a natural response to that is to sleep. It can be so incredibly fatiguing to some people, that they have to sleep it off.

   I can’t say I relate to this personally but I know it’s not terribly uncommon.

8. My husband loves to either sleep to get out of an argument or sleep straight after one is resolved. Drives me crazy especially when he will sleep to get out of an argument!

9. Looking back this was a red flag I wish I’d caught onto early on in our marriage. My wife, for all of our entire relationship, could treat me like the smelliest piece of garbage on the planet, and lay down and fall asleep snoring in 30 seconds without a care in the world.

   She can do that on the spot in almost any situation, where I’m a light sleeper that tosses a lot and remembers waking up several times a night and typically slept less than 6 hours most of my 20s-30s.

   I think there is a difference in someone that has been up all day and is exhausted and they’re going to fall asleep soon, fight or not, vs someone who can who can start a fight out of nowhere, knowing it’ll have you up all night involuntary because that’s just how it affects you, and then make it a point to fall asleep knowing that it will bother you even more.

   If you think it’s being used as a subtle weapon like I figured out my wife was doing, give more thought to what that says.