I’m on mobile so apologies on advance!
I (F21) recently got together with a guy (M23) I’ve always been very attracted to. He was sweet, easy to talk to, handsome, etc. I’ve had the biggest crush on him for so long. We went out for a long night of hitting up bars and hanging out, and we ended up going back to his apartment. After making out for a while I went to give him head. This is where things took a bit of a turn. As soon as I got to his crotch I was hit with a horrible stench of body odor. Nothing fishy or sour, which I know can be signs of something bad, just like BO as if he’d been at the gym all day and hadn’t showered. It was so strong that it was barely manageable.
We didn’t have sex, but I would like to see him again and eventually have sex. But I’m genuinely concerned about getting an infection if he’s not cleaning himself well. He otherwise was incredibly clean and smelled amazing everywhere else.
Is it normal to have a strong smell like that? I might have caught him on a bad day, but if we do have sex I want to be cautious about cleanliness because I’m horribly prone to UTIs. I also feel like I definitely don’t know him well enough to ask him to wash up before we have sex.
Just not sure how to go about this situation. Any advice?
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“I want to fuck you but I can’t get over the horrendous stench of your genitals”
Catch a wiff of it again, and say “I’ll feel much cleaner if we hop in the shower first” and then you give his Mini Me the cleaning of its life
Ask to shower together first
If he is uncircomsised he could be one of those people who dosn’t know how to clean himself… I personally never came across one of those but I can imagine it can smell horrible. Or maybe an sti or just really bad ball sweat smell. Take a shower with him and hopefully it will solve the problem. Otherwise there isn’t any other option than having a talk with him about it.
Does he have overall poor hygiene? I’m usually very aware of my situation down there, especially on the first time with someone. Maybe it was an outlier, but if you try again and it’s bad again you’ll probably just have to talk about it. If he knows that it’s standing in the way of him getting pussy, he’ll do better.
Just say something like showers and mutually soaping each other is a turn on for you. If it still stinks just don’t do it yuck.
he likely has what’s called “crotch rot”. i had it once during a period of high intensity training. I don’t know what his excuse is, it’s gross. it’s going to take many, many showers with specialised cleansers. He may be nose-deaf to it.
You were on a date. He could’ve been really nervous, he got some alcohol in him, and he sweat. It happens. Dicks are smelly, lol. Maybe next time you go out do a physical activity together like bowling or racket ball. That’ll give him the incentive to shower when you bring him back to his place (or yours) and then go to town on him. Or you know what? Just tell him “hey if you shower I’ll suck your Dick”. Once you make that intention clear he won’t argue, lol.
Just invite him for shower sex. Soap him and give him a good stroke to start, then go at it.