I’ll try to make this short! basically I had been seeing this girl for a few months. the last 8-9 days we haven’t spoken barely much even at all tbh.
In first 4 days I asked her why she had been so distant she told me it was due to a depression slump. I gave her space, said some nice things when she opened up but mostly left her alone until she came to me.
Last week she went out all night and stopped communicating with me at 4pm but I found out she never went home which was odd for her.
She texted the morning after “i feel so much better! I’m out of the slump”
but nothing is the same? i tried to tell her that day I didn’t like the lack of communication and she got very upset and said
“you know how I was feeling I don’t understand how there’s so much miscommunication like I don’t care ab you I’d be sad in your position too but i thought you’d Atleast have respect for me idk” ?
i ended up apologizing lmao. but I felt that if she felt okay enough to be out all night she could atleast communicate a bit?
Fast forward to this week and we currently haven’t talked at all in 3 days lol the last thing she said to me was “why do you always wanna leave when things get rocky for us I never once said I didn’t wanna be here. That makes me think damn does she want out of this that bad?”
i told her I wanted to be here but I need communication I don’t feel wanted here and she left me on read lol she later that day texted “you talking to someone else ?” I think I know why she asked. but I replied “no? why are you?” And no reply lmao.
Update: she texted me the other day while she was drunk and said “hi how are you” I said I’m okay how are u and all she said back was “gooddd” lol? I asked if we were done (I didn’t know she was drinking before I had asked) and she said “don’t want to be” I assumed since she hasn’t replied she was talking to someone else so I said that and she said “no I’m not literally I promise I wouldn’t do that” that makes me more confused. I then asked why we haven’t been talking and again no reply It’s been 2 days So I don’t understand.
TLDR I’m 21 she’s 23 been seeing eachother 4 months n we are both lesbians lol
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That’s how depression can work. It can be difficult if you are needy and anxious and she is not communicating. You are thinking the worst while she is probably just connecting with things immediately around her. She may also suffer mood swings and be easily distracted and perhaps she is manic right now.
It’s a big commitment being in a relationship with someone with mental illness and if it’s going to cause to much anxiety and stress for you there’s no shame in leaving.
Of course it may not me that and she may just be an asshole.
do have you anything interesting thing to talk about then questioning her about is she still your. she depress at least try make her happy. that why she need and want a boyfriend. someone make her happy and you on the hand try making her just a possession. stopping blaming and think what she need